Why Couples Fight: A Step-by-Step Guide to Ending the Frustration, Conflict, and Resentment in Your Relationship

How do two well-meaning people who genuinely care about each other end up in a damaged, unsatisfying relationship?

Every couple faces conflict. Most of the time, the root of the problem is that we're not getting our needs met. And most of the time, we first try to remedy this with reasonable requests—or hints—and a kind tone. But when that fails, we feel disempowered, which leads to sighs, eye rolls, silences, subtle put-downs, insults, and even threats. These are power moves. And while we often use them without realizing it and without intention, the result is the same—our partner feels disempowered and will try to re-empower themselves. And so the endless, and endlessly destructive, dynamic takes hold.

Relationship expert Mira Kirshenbaum, bestselling author of Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay, reveals a better way: a three-step method for conflict-free problem solving. By recognizing each partner's power moves, we can instead find mutually satisfying ways to heal our hurts and meet each other's needs.

Non-judgmental, compassionate, and wise, this is an indispensable guide to help couples end the negative cycle and get back to the loving understanding that brought them together in the first place.

"Mira Kirshenbaum's words of wisdom are an inspiration to everyone who reads them."
—Deepak Chopra