Want Me: A Sex Writer's Journey into the Heart of Desire

A NEW YORK TIMES "NEW & NOTEWORTHY" BOOK | A BUSTLE "MOST ANTICIPATED BOOK OF 2021" | ONE OF PUREWOW’S “BOOKS WE CAN’T WAIT TO READ IN FEBRUARY” | VANITY FAIR’S “THE BEST BOOKS TO BUY THIS VALENTINE’S DAY”

"Want Me is complicated, fun, shocking, and heart-warming all at once."
—Jessica Valenti, New York Times bestselling author of Sex Object

"Intimate, challenging, and so very smart. Want Me is a gift."
—Rebecca Traister, New York Times bestselling author of Good and Mad

Tracy Clark-Flory grew up wedged between fizzy declarations of "girl power" and the sexualized mandates of pop culture. It was "broken glass ceilings" and Girls Gone Wild infomercials. With a vague aim toward sexual empowerment, she set out to become what men wanted—or, at least, understand it.

In her moving, fresh, and darkly humorous memoir, she shares the thrilling and heartbreaking events that led to discovering conflicting truths about her own desire, first as a woman coming of age and then as a veteran journalist covering the sex beat. Tracing her experiences on adult film sets, at fetish conventions, and during an orgasmic meditation retreat (to name just a few), Clark-Flory weaves in statistics and expert voices to reckon with our views on sexual freedom.

Want Me is about looking for love, sex, and power as a woman in a culture that is "freer" than ever, yet defined by unprecedented pressures and enduring constraints. This is a first-hand example of one woman who navigated the mixed messages of sexual expectation, only to discover the complexity of her own wants and our collective need to change the limitations of that journey.