The Secret Life of You: How a bit of alone time can change your life, relationships, and maybe the world

'In this powerful meditation on aloneness – as opposed to loneliness – Kerri blends incisive journalism with critical thinking, research, wit and heartfelt storytelling … For those burned out by busyness and connectedness, this book is life-changing' Ginger Gorman

Why is it so scary to be alone with your own thoughts?

When columnist and commentator Kerri Sackville decided to stop filling every idle moment with distraction and learn to be comfortable alone, her quality of life soared.

From boosting creativity and productivity, improving self-awareness, building resilience and moral courage, to improving relationships and connection with others, a bit of alone time is vital to wellbeing. But with smart phones, social media, endless streaming and podcast options, as well as the demands of work, family and friends, spending meaningful time on your own can feel impossible, unnecessary, or even indulgent.

In The Secret Life of You Kerri Sackville analyses society's attitude towards solitude – why is it okay to eat breakfast at a café on your own but faintly tragic to dine alone? She identifies the roadblocks in the way to unplugging, contemplates aloneness vs loneliness, and looks at the difference between true connection and mere connectivity. Finally, she provides practical advice on how to become comfortable in your own company, in order to enjoy – and even cherish – time alone.